Turning Pain into Peace in 2019: Our Emotional Bandwidth

Why move through emotional pain? Why feel it? Why acknowledge it?

We are told to "manage" painful feelings, go "around" them, "push past" or even "avoid" painful feelings. Sometimes we are told by our culture that doing so makes a stronger person.
Many people have stuffed painful feelings so deeply, they almost forget those feelings exist until they have an outburst or until something seemingly small sparks a quick downward spiral.

Some people have themselves off from their feelings so much, that a sort of fragmentation has occurred and it's hard to even recollect feelings over a lifespan. Then they are reminded by a physical manifestation of the pain...like regular sickness, body pain, with an illness or even a dis-ease that will slowly take their quality of life and maybe even lose their life before the average years for their lifespan.

Painful feelings like sadness, fear and anger are connected to and exist alongside feelings of joy and love. They are all part of a continuum of the human experience. So anytime people avoid feelings of sadness, fear or anger, they are also cut off from true joy and love.

Knowing this, what will you do with your painful feelings and emotional pain? Are they still accessible or have you tried to erase them and now, they manifest in physical illness? What do you do to move through painful feelings? Are you happy with your process for dealing with painful feelings?

Feeling better means first uncovering your deep denial of painful feelings, facing them in a process that is healthy for you (which may mean taking small steps at a time), and moving through your painful feelings that are trapped and stuffed deeply into our body and soul. When you give them the life they require to be healed and released...you can move through them, heal and release them and move towards your life's purpose.

The only way out is through.

In the month of February, I will continue to reflect on the concept of Emotional Bandwidth... if you have a strong bandwidth, you are comfortable with and experience a wide range of emotions.

If your bandwidth has been damaged by trauma or painful feelings have been avoided and rendered out of sight...come to my therapeutic coaching office and I will help you recover yourself and expand your emotional bandwidth for a fulfilling life.

Our Heart and Mind for 2019

Deep inside of our unconscious, live our deepest values. 
These personal standards drive all of our behaviors, every day, and many of us are not aware of that. 

So when I ask you, what are your goals for 2019? Be sure to know that your goals stem from the Values you hold dearest. 
These goals were filed in the unconscious mind when we were young and we may not be able to easily articulate or prioritize them.

Additionally, sometimes we get so busy or lost in our life circumstances and obligations that we loose sight of what is really important - what we should be moving away from and what we should be moving towards.

How can we tell when we are floundering in perceived expectations or the multiple "shoulds" in our mind? 
Hopefully we know it because we can feel it. We can feel that something is just off and needs changing.

What are the goals you want to move towards in 2019? 
What would you like more of? What would you like less of?
Are these things based on your deepest Values as you would want them to be? 


If you are feeling confused or like you have gotten away from yourself, your focus, what is really important, there are a few things you can do, to get into a place of feeling more connected to your deepest values...

Write down some big goals 
and brainstorm a few small steps to reach them.

What if you don't know what your big goal is? What if you have several big goals and don't know how to decide which one? 
There are too many options at times and it can get overwhelming. 

However, there is a place for you. 
There is space to explore your values and how they can lead you into your future.
There is a place for what you love to do and what you are good at. 

When you need support to decide which way to go and what the small steps are to get to the place where you feel "home" in your life Schedule a free phone chat or an appointment
and I can coach you through the process.

A New Year of Focus on Your Health & Wellbeing

Last night under the stars and around the table, my family set intentions for the new year with a little ritual we love. Bring in the new year with a focus on your health and wellbeing. I have a proven strategy for letting go of the old and bringing in the new.

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