Rapid Anger: Swim Through It - Part I

When I was 13 my dad made me a punching bag to use when I was frustrated. He wrapped a 2x4 piece of wood with very thick padding so the bag was oblong. He used duck tape to wrap it up tight, hung it from the ceiling and connected it to the floor with springs, so it had some give.

I remember when he was done and had left, I took a permanent marker and drew his face on it.
I was angry with my biological father for not being around much as I was growing up or when he was around, he just wasnt present. This is the story of so many kids.

I put my boxing gloves on and began tapping the punching bag. It didn't take long for me to really get into it and feel that I was pushing out every bit of anger I had within me. I made angry faces and started to sweat and jump around. The bag swung forward and back at me with his face on it and I hit it hard.

Using this bag gave me great relief and often times when I was done punching it, I felt sad. The sadness that was buried beneath the anger was …

The Lived Life

What is more important than everything I know? Ahh, all that I could have created but didn't.

We have all heard the sentiment that communicates a sense of regret:  "The unlived life", which refers to someone who did not pursue or achieve what they really wanted. Instead, they chose to live their life as a slave to others feelings and needs, and never put themselves first.

We are taught by our parents, religions, and our culture that we should always put others first. Yet we get on an airplane and the safety rules tell us to put the oxygen mask on ourselves first so we can breathe and then put the masks on our children. Self-care and self-love is a balance that must be actively chosen, or we lose ourselves to other people and the world, and never live our authentic lives.

We see people everywhere, many times they are women, who never put themselves first. They are tired, have anxiety, insomnia and an array of other symptoms of this problem of no self-love. They distract …

Just Beneath the Surface: Spring is Here

May is Springtime and we can allow what's just beneath the surface to emerge for our greater good. Spring can wake us up from our slumber and reveal what is just beneath the surface to allow for the space to release, for your higher good.

During this time of year, we might be called to move our bodies more, transfer out the sweaters for the t-shirts, do some spring cleaning in the garage...there are lots of extra things on our plates. Some of us struggle to plan, start or finish our projects and we beat ourselves up with the list of "shoulds" and what we "should be doing". Feelings of not being "enough" or "good enough" sometimes come to the surface. That's when we know we are out of balance with our true selves. 

It is important to feel any grief that rises due to the negative, faulty beliefs about ourselves. We can choose to move through the anger (a secondary emotion) to the root feeling which is sometimes grief (a primary emotion) and

Moving Beyond Our Original Pain

All of us are born into this world and bring or acquire deep, emotional pain. For those who believe in past lives, we bring painful experiences and memories into this life with our soul energy. Then we acquire more as we grow. For those who believe in one life, we acquire our pain between conception and age 7 (imprint stage), first from our mother's experiences and emotions during pregnancy and then as we grow from any primary parental figures. During this stage we are like a duckling, following along what we perceive to be normal, even if it's not because we don't know the difference. A duckling will eat, walk, sleep, be afraid of, and trust whatever the parent duck does. So the question is, what happens when the parent duck models behaviors that do not support a healthy life?

For example, the parent duck likes to sleep under cars at night, because of the cold. The duckling follows and for many years this is the norm for survival. However, when the duckling grows into adu…

How Do you Measure Your Worth?

There are many Therapeutic Coaching clients in my office who struggle with what other people may think of them; their mothers, co-workers, friends, even what strangers think of them, and especially those who they revere. They unconsciously decided at some point to measure their worth with mostly an External Frame of Reference and some have approval addiction. This frames almost all of their behavior and they are miserable and don't know why? They become human-doings, constantly assuming they know what others want them to be and move through life doing acrobats to please others and get reassurance (of which there is never enough).

When we are concerned about what others think of us, we are out of balance and experience anxiety and other emotions meant to wake us up and pay attention. It is the classic inferiority complex. We will never be liked by everyone, and we will never please everyone. Inferiority complexes lead to believing in victimhood which is a powerless position and a t…

Simplify: From Overwhelmed to Grounded

Overwhelmed? Get Grounded in 15 Minutes.
Do you ever feel overwhelmed, flustered or un focused? How often do you take real time for yourself? It doesnt take a vacation to settle ourselves and feel better. We can choose this here and now, by using the exercise below.
The Presence Process is a daily exercise that supports feeling more focused, grounded and generally happier.  Try the following:
Choose a quiet place with no interruptions and set a timer, for 15 minutes, sit in complete stillness. Pick a focal point and allow your body and mind to relax. The purpose is to sit in surrender. Surrender to any thoughts that come through. Observe the thoughts as you allow them to come and go, like cars passing by or like radio background music. Allow any emotions to rise, experience them as they rise, flow and release.After 15 minutes you can choose how you will "digest" the experience you just had. You can simply go about your day or you choose to journal, discuss with a friend, whateve…

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